We met in 2011. At the time I had this vague knowledge of having been diagnosed with PCOS but having no clue what that meant. So I broached the topic with the guy I was dating that I knew I was marrying, scared what his response would be. And he was chill with it. He said ok. I don’t think he understood what that meant. I always took vitamins and saw an applied knesiologist. When we were married a year and still not pregnant I decided to try another homeopathic method. I saw a cranial sacral therapist. And it worked. A couple months later we were pregnant
During the pregnancy and after, I continued to see both and take my vitamins. I was really hoping to get pregnant quickly. And I held onto my belly in the hope that it would become full again. And for three years nothing
One of the reasons I still hadn’t seen a Dr for fertility was because I knew my body was and is sensitive to medications. We also weren’t in a financial place to pursue it as well. I went to see my OB and he put me on clomid (rookie mistake) and didnt monitor me. We tried that for 3 months and that messed up my body and cycle. We reached out to an organization by us – they asked if we had insurance for infertility. When we said no- they said they couldn’t help us. Not even with info of who to call.
Side note – we have always run our own businesses and currently in NY there isn’t much insurance options that include fertility for those that are self employed.
So we waited another year
At the time I was feeling off and a friend suggested I see this DR for thyroid problems. Link to the story for another time. That didn’t work. 6 months later I met with a different doctor – but I really wasn’t ready.
When the Dr told me that I would probably have to do iVF I wasn’t happy. Link to this dr story
Then we moved and I met the Dr that we do our treatments with. He was patient and kind. He was understanding and validated my concerns.
It’s so important to like and trust the Dr you are choosing to work with
Another link to the info with the egg retrieval
Another link to the info with the transfer
I don’t regret that we did the IVF process. I do feel grief that we lost the babies. But I know that it’s not up to me. And so I hold onto my faith and know that it is what it is. We are so blessed to have our daughter. We are so blessed to have each other
And that’s what matters most ❤️