Every once in a while our kids do something that shakes us up. Hopefully it’s an amazing moment.
For me, most of the time I spend as a Mom, my daughter makes sure to tell me how much I need to improve. I get it…. she’s going thru a stage, which is hell for me. I never would have been able to get away with saying the things to my mom that she says to me. Some of the things that I’m working on
- Don’t take what she says personally
- When losing patience refer to #1
I also had an epiphany recently where I realized something crazy… I don’t know if you do this.. but when I want to vent, I call my besties.
It can be about the dumbest thing or something important.
And afterward, I feel better. And I realized that Leah (our daughter) does that with me.
I need to let her whine and complain and vent about whatever it is. Afterwards, it usually does blow over. She just needs to release her feelings and emotions, once done she can move on to the next thing…
Which is hard for me because I’m working on my listening and patience skills. Yeah, I’m crap out of those but getting better every day. Actually, what I should say – is that its a skill I’m getting better at and omit the first part. The reason is because of what Leah reminded me of the other day.
She and her cousin were having a playdate.
Little backstory here, my sis in law and I had girls 8 months apart and they love each other and play so nicely when they get together.
They can’t get enough of each other. So… when the time was up for us to go home, the girls asked for a sleepover, to which I responded “I’ll talk to your mom”.
Unbeknownst to me, my niece turned to Leah and told her that her Dad wasn’t going to let her go. Sure enough, I spoke with my brother in law and he said that night didn’t work for them. Done.
I come back out and this was Leah’s response.
I knew it was going to happen because Noa said her Dad was going to say No and that’s why he did. What we say we make happen
I was floored.
WHAT!!??
I mean kid your 8!
But I needed that reminder
And I need that reminder every day.
I need to remember that whatever I say is going to happen will happen.
I create the reality that I live in
I create the choices
I create because of my belief and because of what I say.
There are so many stories of people that have miracles happen to them because of what they believed and what they said.
so… I need to be more aware of the reality I’m creating by the words that I’m saying!
Maybe Leah will translate that to herself and stop calling me a mean mom because I shut off the TV 
In health
Zelda
